Thank you! So simple. I have noticed that thank you’s and thank you cards are not ‘in style’ anymore. I have been invited to a number of weddings, and showers over the last few years, and the number of thank you’s I’ve received has been minimal! At first I was insulted, I have come to realize that not everyone is into sending out a thank you.
Growing up my mother always made sure that we at least said thank you when we received something, or had a nice gesture done for us ( eg. having a door opened for us). Gifts from Grandparents especially had a thank you note sent. When I got married, that was paramount to me…sending thank you’s for shower and wedding gifts/cards. I made sure that they were out as soon as I could possibly manage. Now, when I give a gift I am not giving it just to receive a card in the mail, but an acknowledgment would at least be nice.
Is it that we as a society are getting lazy? are we expecting too much? are the times just simply changing? I really don’t know. I guess if giving a thank you card is ‘old school’, then that is how my children will grow up, old school.
At my place of work education is an important aspect and in fact a requirement of staying certified. The doctor in charge of our department is very giving and has set up an education fund for anyone to use from his and his wifes personal account. I have received education money from them and asked my mom “should I give a thank you card to them?” My mother responded with “Well, I don’t think a thank you is ever out of place” So I left a card in his pile of mail, the next day he said “Marla! Thank you so much for the card and the acknowledgement… in all the years we have been offering this education money you are the first to tell us thank you!” I was floored!
I don’t know the reason for the lack of thank you cards, but i do believe that is rests in our hands, parents hands. We must be the ones to teach our children that it is appropriate to let others know you appreciate them thinking of you. It does not need to be extravagant, a simple thank you goes a long way!