Archive for August, 2011

Thank You! Why Are These Words Becoming So Rare?

Thank you! So simple. I have noticed that thank you’s and thank you cards are not ‘in style’ anymore. I have been invited to a number of weddings, and showers over the last few years, and the number of thank you’s I’ve received has been minimal! At first I was insulted, I have come to realize that not everyone is into sending out a thank you.

Growing up my mother always made sure that we at least said thank you when we received something, or had a nice gesture done for us ( eg. having a door opened for us). Gifts from Grandparents especially had a thank you note sent. When I got married, that was paramount to me…sending thank you’s for shower and wedding gifts/cards. I made sure that they were out as soon as I could possibly manage. Now, when I give a gift I am not giving it just to receive a card in the mail, but an acknowledgment would at least be nice.

Is it that we as a society are getting lazy? are we expecting too much? are the times just simply changing? I really don’t know. I guess if giving a thank you card is ‘old school’, then that is how my children will grow up, old school.

At my place of work education is an important aspect and in fact a requirement of staying certified. The doctor in charge of our department is very giving and has set up an education fund for anyone to use from his and his wifes personal account. I have received education money from them and asked my mom “should I give a thank you card to them?” My mother responded with “Well, I don’t think a thank you is ever out of place” So I left a card in his pile of mail, the next day he said “Marla! Thank you so much for the card and the acknowledgement… in all the years we have been offering this education money you are the first to tell us thank you!” I was floored!

I don’t know the reason for the lack of thank you cards, but i do believe that is rests in our hands, parents hands. We must be the ones to teach our children that it is appropriate to let others know you appreciate them thinking of you. It does not need to be extravagant, a simple thank you goes a long way!

Simple And Easy Room Embellishing Projects For Children

It can be very satisfying to decorate your youngster’s room. But, you can’t forget that most of the time kids have lots of fun when they are able to help out with the adorning of their room. By involving your child in the decorating decisions, they will feel more ownership in the room. More often than not, this helps them to be more diligent in keeping their room fresh and orderly. Of course, if they were part of the creation process, they would just normally feel a greater sense of responsibility towards keeping things nice. Below are a few room decorating projects that are simple enough for children to help with.

Unique Works Of Art

In all likelihood, your son or daughter has been the creator of many pieces of art over time. Children’s art projects from school wind up hidden away in drawers and boxes far too often. Instead of putting them away, use them to help spruce up your child’s bedroom. Merely place a few creations in 8×10 picture frames, and display on the walls. Your child will be so proud to see their artwork displayed prominently. You can work with paintings, drawings, sketches or anything else that looks nice in the room. You may wish to swap out the pieces of art once in a while to make sure that some new art can be displayed.

Hand Print Artwork

Even the littlest youngster can help generate hand print art. All you need is a number of colors of acrylic craft or maybe wall paint, a few flat disposable aluminum dishes, and a wall or piece of paper. Before starting, protect the table, floor or work space with a plastic drop cloth. And then spread a layer of the paint in the disposable pans, placing a different color into each one. Your kid can put the palm of their hand in the paint and then use their paint-covered hand to make a mark on the wall. To make an even more adorable and more attractive look, show your child how to make a border of hand prints across all of the walls at the height of a chair rail. Simply use a yardstick and a pencil to measure and make a mark on the wall at the appropriate height, drawing a pale pencil line around the whole room perimeter. Then all your kid has to do is create painted hand prints all along the line with one color or maybe even more. Or, have your child create hand print art on papers, then display his or her creations in picture frames hanging on the wall. This is often an excellent way to bring art activities and fun room decorations together.

Artwork From Coloring Books

You might also use easy pages from a coloring book to make some attractive art for display in your kid’s room. Select a coloring book that features a theme corresponding to the basic feel of the room. Next, furnish your child with a nice selection of crayons. Your kids will adore coloring drawings that will soon be used as artwork for their walls. Merely place a few of their masterpieces in picture frames, and hang on the wall. Not only can their room look wonderful, but your youngster will also feel the satisfaction of knowing that they assisted with decorating the room. Once you have a couple pages framed, you may continue to update them from time to time with new colored pages, to keep the overall look fresh.

Your kids will love these fun and simple projects. They will allow your kids to express their creativity, and your kids will enjoy the finished project for years to come.

Are Dryer Sheets Harmful to Your Family? What Alternatives Do You Have?

I know a lot of people who just can’t do laundry without throwing in a dryer sheet. I’ve never had that habit, and when I tried the ones we were given back when we were first married, really couldn’t see what the benefit was. But a lot of people do love them, and use them without considering the potential harm the simple dryer sheet may do to their family.

A big part of this is air quality issues. There’s an article on the National Institutes of Health website that gets into the risks of using scented products indoors, and dryer sheets are one of the topics covered. They give off a variety of VOCs, and there have been cases of children having a seizure after being exposed to dryer sheets. It’s not going to happen to every child, of course, but that’s still pretty serious.

Simply put, there are better ways to help your laundry smell fresh, ways that don’t involve the waste and harsh chemicals of dryer sheets, even the unscented ones.

Line Dry Your Laundry

Hanging your laundry out to dry is one of the best ways to handle the issue. You get that fresh air scent naturally, rather than the imitation some dryer sheets try to give. Not only does line drying mean you don’t need dryer sheets, it saves all the energy using your dryer would have taken.

You can still take down slightly damp laundry and give a few minutes in the dryer for those things that tend to come out crunchy when line dried, such as towels and jeans. The crunchiness may not last long once you start using them, so you may choose to skip even that much use of the dryer if you can stand it initially.

Vinegar in the Wash

You can add a half cup of white vinegar to your wash during the last rinse cycle as a natural softener. This can even help your laundry come out softer when you line dry it. Vinegar in the last rinse cycle helps to remove the last of the detergent from your laundry.

Essential Oils

If you truly love the scent given to your laundry by dryer sheets, why not make your own? Pick a favorite essential oil, place a couple drops of it onto a damp washcloth and include in the dryer with the rest of the load. It will scent your laundry nicely.

Aluminum Foil Ball

Another tip for those who use their dryer for their laundry is to add in a ball of aluminum foil. Roll some into a tight, 2-3 inch diameter ball and throw it in the dryer with every load. It will take care of any problems you have with static in your laundry, and should last a long time. A tennis ball may help as well, but they may contain toxic chemicals.

If you prefer the dryer balls you’ve seen advertised elsewhere, go for ones that are PVC free and aren’t packaged in a bunch of plastic. Just be aware that some people feel that some types create holes in their clothes over time.

Eco Friendly Dryer Sheets

If you just can’t give up the dryer sheet habit, at least go for some of the more environmentally friendly options. Mrs. Meyers is a good choice, but Method may be easier to find locally.

You can also buy reusable dryer sheets such as Static Eliminator. They should be good for hundreds of uses, which beats buying boxes of dryer sheets. On the other hand, I don’t know that they’re any better than any of the solutions you can do right at home.

As you can see, there are plenty of simple ways to quit using dryer sheets without having to deal with static cling or laundry that doesn’t smell right to you. Make this simple change and you’ve cut one source of VOCs from your home.

Marriage and Family Tips: Financial Involvement on Both Sides

In wedlock, there is usually one person who is responsible for managing the finances of the family: paying bills, savings accounts, budgeting, etc. Often, the other spouse even does not know very much about the financial state of their family. As long as he or she can shop as usual, there would seem to be no problem. However, this approach can backfire especially if some problems arise in the family’s finances. Blaming the problems on one party would not be fair. For better money management and family bonding, involvement of both the husband and wife is important. Here are some tips you can do to get your spouse involved in your family’s money management.

1. Hold regular financial meetings – Discuss your spending and saving activities with your spouse regularly. Once a week is an ideal periodic schedule. During the meeting, you both will review the budget, consider new purchases, expenditures and income, and adjust them to suit the balance report.

2. Decide the budget together – Once a month, it is important to agree on the family’s budget together. Generally, a family will have a fixed budget that is more or less the same every month. However, you or your spouse may have certain unusual needs he or she would like to plan to do in the next month. Taking input from both sides in this case is central for making financial decisions for your family.

3. Take turns in paying bills – If previously your husband or wife is the only one who handles the bill paying, sharing the responsibility is very beneficial. You can do it by taking turns paying the bills once in a month (e.g. you pay the bills this month, your spouse does then the next month) or you can delegate your spouse to pay some of the bills while you do the others, thus splitting the task.

4. Let your spouse manage some area of the budget – Although working together, one spouse will still be a “leader” in the family’s management. This means that he or she will have a larger responsibility in managing the budget. Sharing the burden won’t hurt at all. Let your spouse entirely manage one or more of the budget categories.

5. Be transparent in using financial software – Often, a husband or a wife use specific software to record the family’s financial records such as savings, spending, and budgeting. Sharing the password will permit the other spouse to log into the account and the resulting transparency is significant. Not only can he or she learn about the family’s financials, he or she can also determine the budget for the family.