For some reason or another, circumstances may give you no choice but to stay at someone’s house. It might be a family member – distant or close- or a close friend. In all cases, there are certain guidelines you should follow to be a decent house guest. Some are instinctive and well-known, but some may slip your mind.

First and foremost, this is not your house and the biggest issue that comes along with an extra person is the extra cost. As much as you can afford, offer to buy groceries especially if you need things or food that your host does not consume. Use water and electricity wisely and go easy on the phone and the internet. It is cheaper and easier for you and your host if you bring as much of your belongings as you can. Bring along your favorite pillow, your own toiletries and NEVER use anything from other people’s things without permission, no matter how minor you think it is.

If you are a student, unemployed or simply “need the money”, you may not be able to help financially. Yet, there’s a lot to do to be a welcome and helpful guest. You need to make sure you don’t load them with any effort. Wash your own dishes and prepare your own food. Do your laundry yourself if possible, make your bed and arrange your room. Offer to help with their housework as well if you can. After all, your hosts will really like it when you become an active member of their household, even if your stay is temporary.

However, it is not always and not only about money or effort. It’s about what you do and how you act. Being polite because you are a guest does not mean being silent and confined to your room/space. Try to make a difference and show your good spirit. Take a part in the general talks going on; say as much as you want about yourself, studies, career and/or other current activities. Tell jokes, watch movies and play games with everyone else. It will make your stay more enjoyable for you and your company and will bring you closer and closer to the people you love.

Remember that what’s more important than adding a spark by your presence is avoiding causing any disturbance. Do not play your music loud, especially if there is someone studying or a baby in the house. Dress appropriately and take care of your general appearance. Give your host and his/her family space so they can talk about matters that don’t concern you without being embarrassed. If you share the bathroom, do not take ages inside, especially in the mornings when everybody else needs it.

Make sure you leave behind a good impression. Give them a “thank you” gift or flowers before you leave. It would be a gesture of gratefulness and will be greatly appreciated.